15 Questions to Ask on a First Date If You're Bored

It is not for nothing that when hiring a new person in any, even a small, office, they ask a lot of questions, from the date and place of birth to a favorite hobby and the name of a pet. After all, when letting a new person into your work or life, it is very important to understand his lifestyle, then you can at least roughly understand whether you like him, and whether you can work or be together further. Often on the first date, as well as at an interview, nerves give in, and you do not know what to ask and what to say. To do this, you just need to listen to the advice of more experienced psychology experts, and also think over a list of questions before the date. You should also listen to your feelings when you receive an answer to your questions, whether you want to be with this person, whether he is interesting to you. In any case, even if a good relationship does not work out, it is quite possible that you can get a good friend or colleague, or, on the contrary, learn something that will make you stay away from this person. All this, of course, is up to you to decide, but do not forget that you are also being watched and conclusions are being made.

1. If you could go anywhere, right now, where would you go?

If the answer is "nowhere", you are dealing with a hermit. If the question evokes a wave of storytelling and a stream of thoughts and emotions, you will be able to learn about this person's attitude to travel, trips, as well as his romantic or extreme mood.

2. What is your dream job?

You'll learn what motivates and inspires your conversation partner by discovering values and character traits that may (or may not) align with yours.

4. If you didn't have to work to live, how would you spend your time?

This will tell you something about the other person's values and interests. If they don't match yours, it's better to find out now than when your paths start to diverge much later.

5. What do you like most in life?

You'll find out what you have in common or vice versa. If you find that you do have common interests, you'll have a whole arsenal of ideas for the future.

6. What are your favorite TV series?

People's interests are reflected in what they like to watch. If they devote time to watching the news, and you like sports channels, soon enough you will be fighting for the remote control or each of you will be staring at your own screen. But there is a chance to find a compromise and spend time in a more interesting and exciting way.

7. What do you like to read?

People's interests and curiosity manifest themselves in their choice of reading material. Finding out what people like to read reveals their intellectual interests and passions. Sometimes you can discover something new, and sometimes these tastes are simply different and it is better not to pry into their understanding. But it all depends on you. It is one thing if she reads fantasy, and quite another when her favorite reading is cosmetics catalogs.

8. Who was the most influential person in your life?

Finding out who and what a person did can also reveal another person's values, family environment, and close relationships with friends.

9. Do you still keep in touch with your childhood friends?

 

Such friendly and long-term connections will give an idea of how he (she) values the relationship. But do not rush to conclusions, even if contacts have been terminated, you should find out the reasons. Perhaps life circumstances have developed this way, then you will find out the person's attitude to this. It is one thing if the phone has simply changed, and the numbers have been erased, and quite another if there were attempts to find numbers, even if they moved to different countries and cities. Social networks now work wonders, and erase the boundaries of this. And not communicating with loved ones can be justified by anything, but not by the lack of communication.

10. What is the most spontaneous act?

If you want to know how much of a risk taker and thrill seeker this person is, then ask him this question. It can determine a lot in the future, and also give you the opportunity to come up with some adventure for the two of you on your next date. For example, jumping with a parachute, or visiting quest room.

11. Can you tell me about your family?

The answer will show not only the attitude towards relatives, but also possibly highlight the upbringing in the family. You will be able to put together a general picture of the situation in the family, as well as their values.

12. Tell me about your friends

If you want to enter into a relationship with someone, it is better to know their circle of friends in advance. It is not for nothing that they say "tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are." But in addition to this, you will have to communicate closely with them, so this information will not be unimportant, and talking about friends will also make your date a little more fun.

13. What were you like as a child?

Shy (oh)? Shy (oh)? Maybe just a total badass? This gives you a clue about what kind of person he/she is today.

14. What are your hobbies?

An easy way to find out what a person can devote more of their time to, and also good information for those times when you don’t know what to give your new friend for the holidays.

15. What is the worst date you've ever been on?

Why waste time on someone who doesn't like healthy humor or friendly banter? Shared laughter will add a bit of humor to your evening, and you will also draw conclusions about how you should not behave on dates with this person.

In any case, the most important rule of the first date is to behave naturally, and not to transform into someone else and try on a mask that is alien to you in everyday life. After all, both you and your chosen one may have to build a life together and establish relationships on a daily basis, and masks do not last that long. In order to avoid surprises in the future, find out the main questions that interest you, but do not turn it into an interrogation. Be honest and sincere, and time will tell whether this is your person or not.